Manifestation can be defined as the act of focusing thought energy toward a specific outcome. Like attracts like. A negative though can only attract more negativity while a positive thought can attract only positive energy. The thing is, though, one has to believe, absolutely!
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1. How do I love myself?
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2. How can I feel like I don’t need approval and validation from anyone else anymore?
3. Why is it so hard for me to love myself?
4. What can I do to really feel happy inside?
5. Why is it so hard for me to take a compliment?
6. How can I know if someone loves me for who I am?
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The reality of today's world seems to leave little room for optimism. Almost every news story can lead because it does bleed. We hear of critical food shortages in Africa, daily gang deaths on city streets, the profiteering from child pornography, and the climatic disasters prompted by global warming. Health care costs move up faster than a hummingbird in flight and more children now spout profanities as a regular part of speech. With such negativity, no wonder a 2004 U.S. government survey found that depression afflicts one in 10 adults 14 days a month or more.
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You probably get depressed just reading the opening paragraph. But wait! There is hope. Not the cock-eyed optimism that became fodder for a song from the musical South Pacific, but rather what psychologists in France are calling "intelligent optimism." Such optimism does not deny the reality of today's world, but rather seeks to LEARN how to fashion a life amid such difficulties. Martin Seligman, the psychologist who had made optimism and happiness his life's work, would agree with the French: optimism can be taught.
Consider these basic steps:
(1) Focus on what you can control. Don't get carried away by circumstances you cannot change. You might not change global warming but you can control your energy consumption. You can't stop the downsizing in your company but you can arm yourself with marketable skills.
(2) Reframe the event so that you are not a victim. There is always another way to view a situation. The flight cancellation that caused me to miss (and forfeit) a major engagement was not "planned" to "get" me. It just was. My choice is to figure out what I can do to help the current client and what I will put in the place of the cancelled work.
(3) Think "enough". When we concentrate on what we don't have, we miss all the many things we do have. The truth of the matter is that if you are reading this article, you do have enough computer power. You do have enough intelligence. You do have enough time.
(4) Cultivate optimistic responses. Like a farmer tending a field, optimism will never grow unless it is watered, fed, weeded and nourished. We all have days in which negativity can take over. And, sometimes, that is a WISE response because it keeps us grounded in reality. Just make sure it is reality and not the imagination making extraordinary leaps into conjecture. Weed out that conjecture. Ask what you can DO to see a result that gives you a sense of power. If we don't cultivate such intelligent optimism, be aware of reality and willing to find options, then we might do what Alexander Graham Bell warned. "Stare so long at the closed door we fail to see the one that is opening."
(5) Remember the power of generations. Children of depressed parents are more prone to depression. Children of optimists are more prone to be optimists. What do you choose to pass along? Even if your parents were negative, you can break the cycle with stopping, freeze-framing a situation, listening to the negative self talk, and then literally giving yourself a different message. Yes, this takes practice but you can make it a habit if you work it over time.
Ultimately, intelligent optimists understand that change and chaos are given. They know that "this too shall pass". In the meantime, they CHOOSE to take whatever action they can within their own sphere of influence and then settle back. It is enough.
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Named by Executive Excellence Magazine as one of the top 100 thought leaders in business, Eileen McDargh, CSP, CPAE authored one of the first books on work/life balance. Numerous books and articles later, Eileen serves the meetings industry as a popular international keynoter and on the Board of Directors of the National Speakers Association. You can find products and services offered by Eileen at EileenMcDargh.com.
By Joe Vitale
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"Two years ago, I heard about a therapist in Hawaii who cured a complete ward of criminally insane patients--without ever seeing any of them. The psychologist would study an inmate's chart and then look within himself to see how he created that person's illness. As he improved himself, the patient improved.
"When I first heard this story, I thought it was an urban legend. How could anyone heal anyone else by healing himself? How could even the best self-improvement master cure the criminally insane? It didn't make any sense. It wasn't logical, so I dismissed the story.
"However, I heard it again a year later. I heard that the therapist had used a Hawaiian healing process called ho 'oponopono. I had never heard of it, yet I couldn't let it leave my mind. If the story was at all true, I had to know more. I had always understood "total responsibility" to mean that I am responsible for what I think and do. Beyond that, it's out of my hands. I think that most people think of total responsibility that ay. We're responsible for what we do, not what anyone else does--but that's wrong.
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I was emailed this poem recently and upon pondering its meaning I realized just how much it makes sense.
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Paul Harvey Writes:
We tried so hard to make things better for our kids that we made them worse. For my grandchildren, I'd like better.
I'd really like for them to know about hand me down clothes and homemade ice cream and leftover meat loaf sandwiches. I really would.
I hope you learn humility by being humiliated, and that you learn honesty by being cheated.
I hope you learn to make your own bed and mow the lawn and wash the car.
And I really hope nobody gives you a brand new car when you are sixteen.
It will be good if at least one time you can see puppies born and your old dog put to sleep.
I hope you get a black eye fighting for something you believe in.
I hope you have to share a bedroom with your younger brother/sister. And it's all right if you have to draw a line down the middle of the room,but when he wants to crawl under the covers with you because he's scared, I hope you let him.
When you want to see a movie and your little brother/sister wants to tag along, I hope you'll let him/her.
I hope you have to walk uphill to school with your friends and that you live in a town where you can do it safely.
On rainy days when you have to catch a ride, I hope you don't ask your driver to drop you two blocks away so you won't be seen riding with someone as uncool as your Mom.
If you want a slingshot, I hope your Dad teaches you how to make one instead of buying one.
I hope you learn to dig in the dirt and read books.
When you learn to use computers, I hope you also learn to add and subtract in your head.
I hope you get teased by your friends when you have your first crush on a boy\girl, and when you talk back to your mother that you learn what ivory soap tastes like.
May you skin your knee climbing a mountain, burn your hand on a stove and stick your tongue on a frozen flagpole.
I don't care if you try a beer once, but I hope you don't like it. And if a friend offers you dope or a joint, I hope you realize he is not your friend.
I sure hope you make time to sit on a porch with your Grandma/Grandpa and go fishing with your Uncle.
May you feel sorrow at a funeral and joy during the holidays.
I hope your mother punishes you when you throw a baseball through your neighbor's window and that she hugs you and kisses you at Hannukah/Christmas time when you give her a plaster mold of your hand.
These things I wish for you - tough times and disappointment, hard work and happiness. To me, it's the only way to appreciate life.
Upon reflection of this I noted that our lives are made up of what we learn from experience. The reason Paul Harvey wishes these little disappointments for the reader is because he knows that through these we learn love of others, laughter at ourselves, respect for our elders and how to be humble. We learn to earn what we own and respect what we have, no matter how used or new it is.
Our mental makeup is learned. We watched how our parents and other family and community members dealt with pain, disappointment, frustration and stress. By watching them we were taught how to handle the smallest to the largest of positive and negative experiences.
What are the negative experiences in your life that taught you a valuable lesson? Think of the experience that you were most hurt by and turn it around to find the lesson you learned from it. Suddenly that bad experience no longer seems as bad as it was since you did still get something postive from it in the end.
1) The essence of our being is LOVE
2) Health is inner peace. Healing is letting go of fear.
3) Giving and receiving are the same.
4) We can let go of the past and of the future.
5) Now is the only time there is and each instant is for giving.
6) We can learn to love ourselves and others by forgiving rather than judging.
7) We can become love finders rather than fault finders.
8) We can choose and direct ourselves to be happy inside regardless of what is happening outside.
9) We are students and teachers to each other.
10) We can focus on the whole of life rather than the fragments.
11) Since love is eternal, death need not be viewed as fearful.
12) We can always perceive others as either extending love or giving a call for help.
*Based on "Principles of Attitudinal Healing" by Gerald Jampolsky, M.D.
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I know this is a cheesy old email that was circulate for many years but the messages in it are heartwarming and definately something we need to concider each day of our lives.
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1 - First Important Lesson - Cleaning Lady.
During my second month of college, our professor gave us a pop quiz. I was a conscientious student and had breezed through the questions until I read the last one:
"What is the first name of the woman who cleans the school?"
Surely this was some kind of joke. I had seen the cleaning woman several times. She was tall, dark-haired and in her 50s, but how would I know her name?
I handed in my paper, leaving the last question blank. Just before class ended, one student asked if the last question would count toward our quiz grade.
"Absolutely," said the professor. "In your careers, you will meet many people. All are significant. They deserve your attention and care, even if all you do is smile and say "hello."
I've never forgotten that lesson. I also learned her name was Dorothy.
2. - Second Important Lesson - Pickup in the Rain
One night, at 11:30 p.m., an older African American woman was standing on the side of an Alabama highway trying to endure a lashing rainstorm. Her car had broken down and she desperately needed a ride. Soaking wet, she decided to flag down the next car. A young white man stopped to help her, generally unheard of in those conflict-filled 1960s. The man took her to safety, helped her get assistance, and put her into a taxicab.
She seemed to be in a big hurry, but wrote down his address and thanked him. Seven days went by and a knock came on the man's door. To his surprise, a giant console color TV was delivered to his home. A special note was attached..
"Thank you so much for assisting me on the highway the other night. The rain drenched not only my clothes, but also my spirits. Then you came along. Because of you, I was able to make it to my dying husband's bedside just before he passed away... God bless you for helping me and unselfishly serving others."
Mrs. Nat King Cole.
3 - Third Important Lesson - Always remember those who serve.
In the days when an ice cream sundae cost much less, a 10-year-old boy entered a hotel coffee shop and sat at a table. A waitress put a glass of water in front of him.
"How much is an ice cream sundae?" he asked.
"Fifty cents," replied the waitress.
The little boy pulled is hand out of his pocket and studied the coins in it.
"Well, how much is a plain dish of ice cream?" he inquired.
By now more people were waiting for a table and the waitress was growing impatient.
"Thirty-five cents," she brusquely replied.
The little boy again counted his coins.
"I'll have the plain ice cream," he said.
The waitress brought the ice cream, put the bill on the table and walked away. The boy finished the ice cream, paid the cashier and left. When the waitress came back, she began to cry as she wiped down the table. There, placed neatly beside the empty dish, were two nickels and five pennies..
You see, he couldn't have the sundae, because he had to have enough left to leave her a tip.
4 - Fourth Important Lesson. - The obstacle in Our Path.
In ancient times, a King had a boulder placed on a roadway. Then he hid himself and watched to see if anyone would remove the huge rock. Some of the king's wealthiest merchants and courtiers came by and simply walked around it. Many loudly blamed the King for not keeping the roads clear, but none did anything about getting the stone out of the way.
Then a peasant came along carrying a load of vegetables. Upon approaching the boulder, the peasant laid down his burden and tried to move the stone to the side of the road. After much pushing and straining, he finally succeeded. After the peasant picked up his load of vegetables, he noticed a purse lying in the road where the boulder had been. The purse contained many gold coins and a note from the King indicating that the gold was for the person who removed the boulder from the roadway. The peasant learned what many of us never understand!
Every obstacle presents an opportunity to improve our condition.
5 - Fifth Important Lesson - Giving When it Counts...
Many years ago, when I worked as a volunteer at a hospital, I got to know a little girl named Liz who was suffering from a rare & serious disease. Her only chance of recovery appeared to be a blood transfusion from her 5-year old brother, who had miraculously survived the same disease and had developed the antibodies needed to combat the illness. The doctor explained the situation to her little brother, and asked the little boy if he would be willing to give his blood to his sister.
I saw him hesitate for only a moment before taking a deep breath and saying, "Yes I'll do it if it will save her." As the transfusion progressed, he lay in bed next to his sister and smiled, as we all did, seeing the color returning to her cheek. Then his face grew pale and his smile faded.
He looked up at the doctor and asked with a trembling voice, "Will I start to die right away".
Being young, the little boy had misunderstood the doctor; he thought he was going to have to give his sister all of his blood in order to save her.
Most importantly.................. "Work like you don't need the money, love like you've never been hurt, and dance like you do when nobody's watching." NOW more than ever - Peace
This program is running again this past week on Starz - Encore Drama. If you have this channel it replays every month or so and I highly recommend it. I have mentioned this movie before and I am doing it again, and probably will in the future as well, as the significance of the film is of importance to every human on this planet. If you choose to purchase this film, you will not regret it. It is something you can refer back to over and over again to learn more about yourself and everything around you.
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(some of the questioned posed in the film)
Why do we keep recreating the same reality?
Why do we keep having the same relationships?
Why do we keep getting the same jobs over and over again?
In this infinite sea of potentials that exist around us, how come we keep recreating the same realities?
Isn't it amazing that we have options and potentials that exist but we are unaware of them?
Is it possible that we are so conditioned to our daily lives, so conditioned to the way we create our lives, that we buy the idea that we have no control at all?
You've been conditioned to believe that the external world is more real than the internal world. This new model of science says just the opposite. It says what's happening within us will create what's happening outside of us.
WHAT THE BLEEP DO WE KNOW?! is a new type of film. It is part documentary, part story, and part elaborate and inspiring visual effects and animations. The protagonist, Amanda, played by Marlee Matlin, finds herself in a fantastic Alice in Wonderland experience when her daily, uninspired life literally begins to unravel, revealing the uncertain world of the quantum field hidden behind what we consider to be our normal, waking reality.
She is literally plunged into a swirl of chaotic occurrences, while the characters she encounters on this odyssey reveal the deeper, hidden knowledge she doesn’t even realize she has asked for. Like every hero, Amanda is thrown into crisis, questioning the fundamental premises of her life – that the reality she has believed in about how men are, how relationships with others should be, and how her emotions are affecting her work isn’t reality at all!
As Amanda learns to relax into the experience, she conquers her fears, gains wisdom, and wins the keys to the great secrets of the ages, all in the most entertaining way. She is then no longer the victim of circumstances, but she is on the way to being the creative force in her life. Her life will never be the same.
The fourteen top scientists and mystics interviewed in documentary style serve as a modern day Greek Chorus. In an artful filmic dance, their ideas are woven together as a tapestry of truth. The thoughts and words of one member of the chorus blend into those of the next, adding further emphasis to the film’s underlying concept of the interconnectedness of all things.
If you could be anything and do anything, who would you be and what would you do?
Most people do not recognize the power available to them in their own mind. Winston Churchill once said: "Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference."
He should know. After all, he led his country against all odds to fight off a bitter enemy and eventually (with a little help from friends) snatch victory from the jaws of defeat. Where would the world be today if Churchill had not let his nation to challenge Hitler and believed, contrary to all evidence, they could succeed in that battle?
Nothing is no more powerful than what we believe. If we believe that we can achieve then we can. If we believe that we are doomed to failure then we will.
Sometimes enacting a change in our lives is as simple as changing our attitude.
Think about this quote from Katherine Mansfield: "Could we change our attitude, we should not only see life differently, but life itself would come to be different."
That is a very powerful message but you have to really bring it to heart.
In many ways it is the perfect pitch because the explanation for any failure on your part is simply that you did not believe enough, but I don't think, if you really do believe and embrace this attitude, that you can't possibly fail.
If you change your attitude it will change your life. I know it. I live it. I see it every day. You know in your gut it is true.
If you have changed your attitude and your life then even if you do not achieve the goal you started with then I don't think it is possible to consider yourself a failure.
Words are power. Attitude is power. Combine the two and you have power magnified many times over. If you can harness that power to serve your purpose then nothing can stop you.
Too often we waste that power on negative rather than postive actions. We complain about our situation, job, relationships, traffic and the weather. We complain that we are sick and tired and just plain stuck.
What is stuck is our attitude. What is stuck is a thought in our minds that we cannot change anything about our lives when the truth is that we have the power to change everything about our lives. We don't have to work in that job, stay in that relationship, drive in that traffic, or live in that weather zone. These are all choices we make -- and even more important we choose how we react to those conditions.
As the trite old saying goes, "when life gives you lemons make lemonade". Your attitude determines everything about you and your life. If you choose to be angry and frustrated by your life then your anger and frustration will only continue to grow, but if you choose to become proactive rather than reactive, if you choose to have a different attitude then you can become the person you want and you can lead the life that you want.
But you have to believe. It really can be as simple as mind over matter, but you have to believe in the power of your mind.
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A lecturer, when explaining stress management to an audience, raised a glass of water and asked, "how heavy is this glass of water? "
Answers called out ranged from 8oz. to 20oz.
The lecturer replied, "The absolute weight doesn't matter. It depends on how long you try to hold it.
"If I hold it for a minute, that's not a problem. If I hold it for an hour, I'll have an ache in my right arm. If I hold it for a day, you'll have to call an ambulance. "In each case, it's the same weight, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes. " He continued, "And that's the way it is with stress management. If we carry our burdens all the time, sooner or later, as the burden becomes increasingly heavy, we won't be able to carry on. "
"As with the glass of water, you have to put it down for a while and rest before holding it again. When we're refreshed, we can carry on with the burden. "
"So, before you return home tonight, put the burden of work down. Don't carry it home. You can pick it up tomorrow. Whatever burdens you're carrying now, let them down for a moment if you can. "
"Relax; pick them up later after you've rested. Life is short. Enjoy it! "
And then he shared some ways of dealing with the burdens of life:
* Accept that some days you're the pigeon, and some days you're the statue.
* Always keep your words soft and sweet, just in case you have to eat them.
* Always read stuff that will make you look good if you die in the middle of it.
* Drive carefully. It's not only cars that can be recalled by their Maker.
* If you can't be kind, at least have the decency to be vague.
* If you lend someone $20 and never see that person again, it was probably worth it.
* It may be that your sole purpose in life is simply to serve as a warning to others.
* Never buy a car you can't push.
* Never put both feet in your mouth at the same time, because then you won't have a leg to stand on.
* Nobody cares if you can't dance well. Just get up and dance.
* Since it's the early worm that gets eaten by the bird, sleep late.
* The second mouse gets the cheese.
* When everything's coming your way, you're in the wrong lane.
* Birthdays are good for you. The more you have, the longer you live.
* You may be only one person in the world, but you may also be the world to one person.
* Some mistakes are too much fun to only make once
* We could learn a lot from crayons. Some are sharp, some are pretty and some are dull, Some have weird names , and all are different colors, but they all have to live in the same box.
" A truly happy person is one who can enjoy the scenery on a detour."
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You’d be surprised. Maybe amazed. If you could see the far reaches of your influence you’d be stunned. The point is: You matter. How you breathe matters. How you think, the words you speak and the actions of your life, no matter how small or seemingly insignificant, they have great power.
Two Kinds of Power
When we think abut power we usually think about will. You want something and you consider yourself powerful if you can achieve it. That is a very linear, directed and limited view of your power. The power I’m talking about is quite different from that. It is the power of your being. The pure quality of your presence. And it radiates out in all directions. You can’t help it. You can’t stop it. It is always generating waves from the center of your being. This never-ending flow of presence that emanates from your core is your true power. It is not your will. It is not trying to do anything. It simply is. And it is powerful.
This power, that is your essence, shines effortlessly. It is light. It is consciousness. Its influence is beneficial to all who have the good fortune to encounter you. It is also subtle. Since the power of your consciousness is not physical like a rock or a brick, many don’t even realize it is there. Since it is not personal like your face or your name, many don’t even recognize it as you. But they’d know your cape anywhere. Your power is draped in your body and your personality and all the clearly noticeable colors of your power’s human cape.
A flashlight under the covers
When you were a kid did you shine a flashlight under the covers at night to read when you were supposed to be sleeping? What you probably didn’t realize was that no matter how heavy the blanket was, the light shone through.
Well, you can make your cape very heavy with the weave of your personal history, but your light will still shine through. That’s the good news because that’s as bad as it gets.
As good as it gets
What if you set an intention to shine your light for all to see? What if you decide to allow your power its freedom? What if you let your cape flap in the breeze, fully expressive of your essence? When you release your power from the hitching post of your will, it reveals its true nature. When your cape stops trying to control your essence, your spirit lovingly animates your cape. Your essence is made of love. You are infinite power made of infinite love.
Realizing this sets you free. Feeling this makes your life joyful. Expressing this makes you an angel to others. Living this makes your life matter in the most profound and beneficial way. This is as good as it gets.
When I say that you matter, do you get a little uncomfortable? Do you worry about the consequences of your decisions? The ramifications of your “mistakes?” There is really nothing to worry about. Every moment is new. And your essence is shining just as brightly when you are in alignment with it as it is when you are all tangled up. So if you get a sudden burst of clarity about your previous patterns of tangle, that’s great. If you start to realize the habitual ways that you cloak your own light and keep it from expressing through you, fantastic.
Now you’ve got clarity and perspective. Now you can bring yourself into greater and greater alignment. Abraham* always tells us, “You can’t get it wrong and you’ll never get it done.” So, don’t worry about mattering. It is only good. Rejoice in your essence and shine your love everywhere you go.
Sit with the intention of feeling the pure power of your essence devoid of the movements of your cape. Relax your consciousness and release anything that is effortful. Keep releasing. Sense the ground of your being. Pure consciousness. Simple being.
Like peeling an onion, go deeper and deeper into your pure space of being.
You are powerful in your influence. And you are most powerful, most beneficial and most fulfilled when you let the power of your pure beingness shine from within you. Let your cape flow on the wind of your spirit. Your body, your personality, your thoughts, words, and deeds will become extraordinary.
© 2005 Rebbie Straubing
* For more information about the teachings of Abraham, visit
Dr. Rebbie Straubing is the author of the new on-line program, Miracle Tools for Great Relationships, which can be previewed at
www.GreatRelationhsips.net. Her free ecourse, 7 Secrets for Manifesting Your Heart’s Desire is available at www.YOFA.net. For news and updates on Rebbie’s offerings, send a blank e-mail to yofa@GoldenReports.com
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While on another website some interesting questions were posed.
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Do you belong? Is your sense of belonging always authentic? How do you pump yourself up for it?
Whether it is in the work place, at home with your family or among your friends, do you feel you belong?
A team works because each person on the team feels they belong where they are. They are content in what they are doing and feel they are contributing or have something of value to contribute.
If you do not feel this sense of belonging why?
If I am not feeling that I belong somewhere I ask myself why? Am I participating enough? Am I giving it my full attention? Can I change how I am feeling by changing what I am doing to create the boundaries I have set? Not belonging is generally our own personal emotional wall that we erect to prevent ourselves from being hurt, feeling incompetant and a variety of other emotional responses.
If the reason we are creating this wall at work is because we do not agree with how things are being addressed have we spoken up about it? If so did we get a positive response? If not do we really want to continue working there? Sometimes by changing our own outlook on our environment we can enhance our experience. If you have not done everything YOU can do than it is your responsibility to correct that.
If your sense of belonging has lacked within a family or friendship unit perhaps it is time to address any issues that may be creating the barrier. There is never a good time to bring something up that may cause some uneasiness but not bringing it up will only develop a thicker barrier which may never be crossed if too much time has passed. Deal with it now. Regardless of whether you remain friends, or family on speaking terms, at least you can have the satisfaction of clearing the air about why there was a barrier in the first place. Perhaps it was a misunderstanding or personality differences. It may even just be something easily repaired that has festered. More often than not the rumor mill is the cause of animosity and if questions are not asked they cannot be answered. Take the first step to repairing that relationship. You may not like what you hear but at least you will know why your sense of belonging has waivered and you can move towards repairing the relationship.
The feeling to belong is less about gaining recognition from others as much as it is about having an inner confidence in ourselves. To feel we belong within any group is to have a sense that we are contributing to that relationship in a positive way.
I would like to hear others experiences in this area.
-- Author Unknown
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I woke up early today, excited over all I get to do before the clock strikes midnight. I have responsibilities to fulfill today. I am important. My job is to choose what kind of day I am going to have.
Today I can complain because the weather is rainy or I can be thankful that the grass is getting watered for free.
Today I can feel sad that I don't have more money or I can be glad that my finances encourage me to plan my purchases wisely and guide me away from waste.
Today I can grumble about my health or I can rejoice that I am alive.
Today I can lament over all that my parents didn't give me when I was growing up or I can feel grateful that they allowed me to be born.
Today I can cry because roses have thorns or I can celebrate that thorns have roses.
Today I can mourn my lack of friends or I can excitedly embark upon a quest to discover new relationships.
Today I can whine because I have to go to work or I can shout for joy because I have a job to do.
Today I can complain because I have to go to school or eagerly open my mind and fill it with rich new tidbits of knowledge.
Today I can murmur dejectedly because I have to do housework or I can feel honored because the Lord has provided shelter for my mind, body and soul.
Today stretches ahead of me, waiting to be shaped. And here I am, the sculptor who gets to do the shaping.
What today will be like is up to me. I get to choose what kind of day I will have!
What will you choose to do with Today?
Have a Great Day... unless you have other plans.
- Real Success is not measured by what you are driven to achieve, but by what you can quietly understand.
- Letting Go is the natural release which always follows the realization that holding on hurts.
- Why seek answers to tormenting questions when it is possible to realize there is no intelligence in torment? So simply drop those painful questions.
- See the upset not as an exterior circumstance to be remedied, but as an interior condition to be understood.
- Your secret strength knows that your secret weakness isn't really yours at all.
- Letting Go is all about finding out what you are not, and then having the courage to leave it at that.
- Instead of always asking how to get others to approve of you ... learn to ask: What do I really want, the applause of the crowds or to quietly have my own life?
- Chasing after a pleasure to ease a pain is like running after a breeze to cool you down.
- Real freedom is the absence of the self that feels trapped, not the trappings that the self requires to make it feel free.
- Letting Go of yourself is Letting Go of your problems, for they are one and the same.
- The only thing you lose when you Let Go of something you are afraid to live without is the fear itself.
- Go along with your longing to be Limitless.
- Guy Finley
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An important aspect of improving how you view yourself is getting up and actually participating in something you have always wanted to but were never motivated enough to do.
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This week I joined the local archaeology society. It is an interest I have had since I can remember and I finally got off my duff and pushed myself forward. I do have some anxiety about whether I am smart enough or if I will be able to keep up. However, I know if I don't try I won't know. My reasons for not doing this earlier often were fueled by my lack of formal education in the field and my misperception that it would be very costly. It turns out a years membership is only $20! I also spoke to the President of the society and she was so down to earth that I did not feel I was being talked down to.
Our perceptions of the difficulties of attaining what we want can often prevent us from moving ourselves forward to our desired goals. More often than not these perceptions are far from the actuality of the situation. We need to sometimes jump in with both feet and take the moment as it comes.
What have you done lately that you have talked about but never pushed yourself to do?
If you have not yet done it, what is the one thing you would LOVE to do?
What is holding you back from trying it?
Louise Hay offers
these helpful suggestions.
Try them! They really work.
1. Stop all criticism: Criticism never changes a thing. Refuse to criticize yourself. Accept yourself exactly as you are. Everybody changes. When you criticize yourself, your changes are negative. When you approve of yourself, your changes are positive.
2. Don't scare yourself: Stop terrorizing yourself with your thoughts. It's a dreadful way to live. Find a mental image that gives you pleasure (mine is yellow roses), and immediately switch your scary thought to a pleasure thought.
3. Be gentle and kind and patient: Be gentle with yourself. Be kind to yourself. Be patient
with yourself as you learn the new ways of thinking. Treat yourself as you would someone you
4. Be kind to your mind: Self-hatred is only hating your own thoughts. Don't hate yourself for having the thoughts. Gently change the thoughts.
5. Praise yourself: Criticism breaks the inner spirit. Praise builds it up. Praise yourself as much as you can. Tell yourself how well you are doing with every little thing.
6. Support yourself: Find ways to support yourself. Reach out to friends, and allow them to help you. It is being strong to ask for help when you need it.
7. Be loving to your negatives: Acknowledge that you created them to fulfill a need. Now you are finding new, positive ways to fulfill those needs. So. lovingly release the old negative patterns.
8. Take care of your body: Learn about nutrition. What kind of fuel does your body need to have optimum energy and vitality? Learn about exercise. What kind of exercise can you enjoy? Cherish and revere the temple you live in.
9. Mirror work: Look into your own eyes often. Express this growing sense of love you have for yourself. Forgive yourself looking into the mirror. Talk to your parents looking into the mirror. Forgive them, too. At least once a day, say: "I love you, I really love you!"
10. LOVE YOURSELF - DO IT NOW! Don't wait until you get well or lose the weight, or get the new job, or find the new relationship. Begin NOW - do the best you can.
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Here is an excercise I utilize whenever I am feeling that I have become down on myself. I choose at least one thing from that day that I did, said or enabled that is positive and write it down in my journal. At first it seems difficult but you soon realize that some of the most simple things can be an accomplishment that you can be proud of yourself for.
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Years ago I suffered from depression. The hardest thing to do in that time frame was to just get out of bed. So the first thing I could be proud of myself for was the getting up to face the day. As time wore on I was able to add additional aspects such as showering, going to work on time, spending time with my family with an honest smile on my face.
Now my accomplishments are not much larger but are important to me. I finished a project I had been working on or met a new friend. To anyone else these may mean little to nothing but to me they are something that effects who I am and where I am going in my life.
Try writing down at least one thing good about your day every day for a week. The following week add one more and the week after one more. Eventually you will find ten positives in one day that you can acknowledge and appreciate about yourself. After a month or two go back and read what you had written and see the changes and advancements you have made. I believe you will be surprised at how fast you can grow by simply taking note of the good within you.
A friend of mine is, as we all should be, searching for herself. She made a comment the other day that really hit home for me. To be unique to others is easier done by being yourself than by trying to follow the lead of others.
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We tend to look to others for inspiration, justification and overall acceptance. This is a major flaw in almost every person on earth. By spending our time and energy (or should I say wasting it?) looking at others for our happiness we lose who we are and this causes depression, stress, and low self-esteem because we are not being true to ourselves.
Today write 5 things about you that you do only to please others. Now write 5 things about you that are unique.
Take this information and compare which side of you brings the most happiness. Now keep in mind serving others can be very satisfying. That is not what I am referring to. I am referring to you not being true to your personality and who you are to please others.
I would be interested to hear your responses to this project.